Friend Requests

For the longest time I kept my profile private, except for friends. Now I try to keep it open to registered Xhamster members. Easy enough requirement just enter a valid email address yada yada and then you can see what I have as far as original content. But when I get a friend request it sometimes bothers me because a friend is someone I feel I should be able to have some type of connection with, maybe not even sexual it may be our taste in music, movies, video games...you get the point. So I ask the whole of Xhamster am I being too strict or taking it too seriously. Or am I trying to prevent from having a profile using my images on some other site or hell even some random craigslist ad.

Should I be like some others I have witnessed and require a minimum of a message from the person first or a video comment.

And if you send a request and I can't view your profile because you are only visible to friends...or worse I go and see you've been on this site for almost a calendar year and you have done nothing but add friends, not even one favorite video or picture what does that say????

Published by Charmed13

10 years ago

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elove25 2 years ago

I understand your request requirements. Most of my stuff is gone. But i hope you will add me as a friend. Thank you..

engene55 2 years ago

thank you for friend requests

retep64 6 years ago

ya learn to clean up the " friends list " regularly

flossin 6 years ago

I'm not insecure about my size whatsoever, in fact I like my size.
But I still feel the same way as I did 4 yrs ago.
If the color of the cock is what you are into, more power to ya and good luck
You'll need it.

HungHornyNEPA 6 years ago

If I send a friend invite, believe me, I have NO intentions of retiring from here. I've been on here now for about 12-13 years and while the first few years were kinda slow, the last 7-9 have been incredibly fun and I've met so many great and interesting people too!

HungHornyNEPA 6 years ago

to flossin : I hear what you're saying here, believe me I do. I'm not racist, never have been, never will be because quite honestly, I think that shit is just juvenile. Do a lot of black guys have big cocks? I think that goes without saying but for as many that ARE well hung there are just as many if not more who are more like you and I are...I'm well hung at 8" and decently thick but I don't brag about it because again, I don't see the need. I let that do my talking for me. This belief that ALL black men are well hung is totally false, many ARE but many more are no bigger or smaller than you and I...and I've even had some black friends tell me themselves too. We've gotten along great over 20+ years now. I don't judge someone by the color of their skin, rather by the way they carry themselves. That's honestly the best way to do it I think.

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HungHornyNEPA 6 years ago

Can't say I disagree with what you said because honestly, I don't. I've been on here for quite a long time now, about 12-13 years and it's only gotten better and better by the year, no question about it but you also have shady SOBs who still infiltrate this site and try to ruin it for the decent crowd like you, me and everybody else. All my content is visible, none of my profile is locked, don't see the need. If I can see your profile and page, you should be able to see mine too!

xsynfulx 6 years ago

I completely agree. I've been here for nearly 6 years and have had all types of people request an add. Here are some of the types that I've found that have been a waste of time and effort.

1. "Hi! Add me to check out my content, but also add me on Patreon!"

2. "Please add me!" - Friend collector

3. "Cum tribute?" They'll ask for a cum tribute, then unfriend me no matter if they like/ post content or not. Never hear from them again.

4. "Friend to retired" in less than a week.

Hunglo91 6 years ago

Will you add me?

sms52 6 years ago

I understand,,and if you choose not to add me,,I understand,,and won't,,bug you,, about it,,I'm just a Man,, looking for some kind of release XXXX

unc03123 7 years ago

your right and I know that I am late on this .. I have a high sex drive but I also I would like to get to know each other spend time with you

ghstrdr 7 years ago

No your are right! !!! You add them,then they retire!! ... BTW NNice profile..

batman434 8 years ago

to flossin : I honestly completely understand what your saying

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kengozin 8 years ago

to flossin : Exactly how i feel about "connecting"

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Agreed... share and share-alike.

rescueguy 10 years ago

The one I struggle with is a request andlater that day the person ends up with a retired status. ????

flossin 10 years ago

I don't try connecting much anymore, it's not worth the effort. We men are dime a dozen, and if you ain't sporting a huge black cock nobody cares about you. If I had only real friends here, I would have like 5. I'll just make the effort in the real world instead.
Perhaps you should open an account as a man to see how pathetic your experience feels, then you can go back and appreciate all the attention... Or not.

oscar18 10 years ago

No I think you've got it right. Whilst some people won't put a picture up there should at least be some favourites and posts so you can figure out something about them. It's good to have friends on here and not necessarily limited to a few. It's good to be able to chat to people (sex, films what they're up to) but not everyone is available all the time so it's good to keep your options open !!

zangetsu84 10 years ago

I get what your saying. Even some friends you've had for a while sometimes don't even respond when you do try and make some kinda connection. It gets frustrating at times. I try and get back at all the comments directed towards me.. PM me anytime you'd wanna chat. I'm an open book. And I've been told I listen and understand pretty well. Best wishes to you and yours.

giggityzz 10 years ago

thx for friending me!!

the_pounder 10 years ago

Well I guess you should require from people before sending a friend request, to at least have some basic info and content on their profiles, and perhaps to be registered on xhamster for a relatively long period of time. You can also demand that they have active profile as well for instance (via the number of comments for instance). Some of us, due to one reason or another, can't have a verified profile, and that doesn't necessarily mean that they're trolls for example.